Growing up, my mom always seemed to have an endless supply of girlfriends. It seemed as if wherever she went and whatever she did, she would walk away with a new friend. And not just a “fast friend” or someone she would ultimately lose touch with. She found lifers. People who to this day, would still do just about anything for her.
Every weekend, she’d have card club, or Bunko (do people still play Bunko?!), get-togethers with old college friends or high school friends, bowling on Mondays and happy hour on Tuesdays. If there was an occasion, she was there.
I should probably add that although this makes her sound like Lindsay Lohan, she was more of an Oprah, and she somehow managed to still be an incredible mother while socially butterflying.
She is just a likeable, loveable, friendly, open human being who never seems to turn down an opportunity for a friend. Everywhere she goes, people want to be around her. I think if someone asked me what I admire most about my mom, it would be this very quality.
She doesn’t limit herself to love, and it wasn’t until recently that I recognized just how alike we are in that way. I guess in admiring her from afar for all these years (23 to be exact), I’ve learned how to fill my life with friends as well. She taught me that if we look for love and friendship everywhere we go, our lives will never seem empty. She taught me that if we’re more grateful for what we already have, love will continue to find us.
Most importantly, she taught me to never underestimate the power of good girlfriends. Here’s why:
1. DIFFERENT PEOPLE, DIFFERENT BLESSINGS.
I read a quote once that was something like, “There isn’t a person you wouldn’t fall in love with if you took the time to read their story.” HOLY TRUTH.
I couldn’t agree with this more, and the more stories I read, the more blessings I find.
Every friendship brings a new experience to me, and in getting to know another person, I learn more about the world.
Who doesn’t want that?!
2. GIRLFRIENDS = DRINKING WINE WITH OTHERS.
There are just some things that don’t need explaining.
3. CELEBRATIONS ARE A LOT MORE FUN.
My girlfriend Britani is one of those people who seems to attract connections wherever she goes. People are just drawn to her.
Every year, I visit her for her birthday, and it is amazing to see how many people are genuinely thrilled to celebrate her and all she is.
That’s how life should be; we should always be celebrating one another, and it’s a beautiful thing to witness.
4. FRIDAY IN? SATURDAY OUT? EITHER WAY.
Sometimes on a Friday night, I might hang out with a girlfriend who’s married with kids and maybe stay in and drink wine.
Come Saturday night, it’s very likely my roommate and I will go out dancing until the wee hours of the morning.
Sometimes it could even be the other way around. Does it really matter? No, because the company is quality.
5. BREAKUP ARMY.
I’m not much of a relationship girl, but I will say that anytime something romantic in my life has ended, a serious girlfriend army forms on my behalf.
The soldiers are all different:
“Let’s kick his ass.”
“I’m so sorry—do you need me to come over?”
“Have you mediated today?”
“How many bottles of wine should I buy?”
“Let’s write down all of the reasons he’s a douchebag.”
“Let’s talk about it for five hours.”
“I never liked him in the first place. What a dick.”
You get the picture. Whatever I need, it’s there. And it rocks.
6. THE SUPPORT TRAIN IS REAL.
I try not to expect a lot from people, but it never ceases to amaze me how supportive my girlfriends are.
Whether it’s something small, like sending me a funny text or driving four hours just to come spend time with me, true, real girlfriends will be there for you when you ask them.
Can I get an amen?!
7. WE ALL NEED VALIDATION.
No matter how crazy I may feel, or no matter how much of an assh*le I may look like, there is always a conversation with a girlfriend waiting to make it all better.
8. SHARING YOUR LIFE WITH OTHERS.
I’m a believer in marriage and soul mates and all of those things, so don’t take this the wrong way, but my favorite part about a wedding is seeing who the bride chose to stand next to her.
On the other side, that is. You know those people have been through every season of her life, helped her at her worst, kept her grounded at her best and essentially shared her life with her.
And so, she needs them there for this whole marriage thing, too. That’s pretty cool.
9. THERE’S NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH LOVE.
Sometimes having a lot of people “pulling” at you can be overwhelming.
True, but I like to remind myself that the pull is only because they want you close.
And, having people in your life who want you around, well there’s that whole blessing thing again.
Just when I think life couldn’t possibly get any sweeter, God puts another opportunity in my life to form a beautiful friendship.